When we were children, we were all complaining, everyone was whining about trivial things. Say, when in the infancy, we were going crazy not to eat our food. We were mad about the light or a smudge in the room; We occasionally cried all night. We weren’t aware of the fact that food was necessary for our survival and the shapes in the room were not monsters. We were ignorant and maybe we’re still.
Is it good to complain then? Complaints, moaning, poor me, little unfortunate me… What is it good for? For you? Who are you? You’re not you. The things that you complain was a part of an endless spacetime. You’re complaining about something that you don’t have a clue about. You don’t know how you ended up here; none of us knows.
And who are you complaining to? Nobody knows what’s your life like or who is right or wrong in your claims. If you’re trying to find unconditional support, no dice. Only sorry comforters and impostors will “show” that kind of support. Who knows what you deserve and what’s in your mind? Your past, your future and the things in your head.
That whining, constant lamenting with chatter in your head can only manifest just because you deserve it. Why are you tormenting yourself? That’s because you’re punishing your own “self.” That’s a manifestation of you understanding it all wrong. The complaints are no use to you. You don’t like it either, yet you still do. Nobody knows how and what future brings. It’s just right to complain and waste your time if you’re too lost in your persona.
Once upon a time, people used to visit a wise man to complain about the same problems repeatedly. One day, he decided to tell them a joke and they all roared with laughter.
After a few minutes, he told them the same joke and only a few of them smiled.
Then he told the same joke for a third time, but no one laughed or smiled anymore.
The wise man smiled and said: ‘You can’t laugh at the same joke over and over. So why are you always complaining about the same problem?’”
I think that’s because the people have to suffer just because they need and deserve it simultaneously. Illogical, unreasonable, unjustifiable action that is. Complaint is additional suffering, suffering in advance or in debt. It’s also for a reason, possibly you like it or utilize it for some reason. A contrast for an upcoming joy perhaps. Where does this emerge from? What manifests this behavior?
Perhaps, you’re confusing things, mixing them improperly. Unintentional complaints may be a result of unnecessary delusions. Eat when you eat, write when you write; eventually, your confusion will be over just like everything else. If it’s not over, think about removing your ego from the equation. Maybe it’s not you that’s going through the process.
Perhaps it’s exactly what was supposed to happen and just like your childhood you’re not able to see it. maybe it’s precisely what you’ve asked for. What you asked for may not be in words if you didn’t put it into words.
And don’t forget, it’s not the event that you’re complaining, it’s your own conception. You can only complain about the images in your head, not the reality. For reality is not something that you can have a grasp of. You will never know what the reality is, what the future brings.
There once was a Zen monastery following a vow of silence. The monks were permitted to speak just two words every ten years. After spending ten years at the monastery, one monk was asked “What are the two words you would like to speak?”
“Bed… hard…” said the monk.
“I see,” said the head monk.
Ten years later, the monk returned to the head monk’s office. “It has been ten more years,” said the head monk. “What are the two words you would like to speak?”
“Food… stinks…” said the monk.
“I see,” said the head monk.
Another ten years passed and the monk again met with the head monk who asked, “What are your two words now, after ten years?”
“I… quit!” said the monk.
“Well, I can see why,” replied the head monk. “All you ever do is to complain.”
If there is a legal or ethical situation, there are mechanisms that require you to complain. When there’s an objective outcome, you can complain. Otherwise, your complaints may be stealing your time to improve the situation. Furthermore, if you get stuck, don’t forget it’s not over yet; and you’re not alone in this.
Consider before complaining “to whom are you complaining to?” And “are there separate events?” “is the reality same with your conception?” What is it good for? Not you, seemingly.
Neither good, nor bad, it’s an expression of the character and the kind of people that we are.