First, we have to notice that we need to enjoy little things, because It\u2019s what is left for us as individuals. You can\u2019t enjoy what\u2019s not meant for you. If you want to fully enjoy, you have to focus on what \u201cyou\u201d have. Little things are all that belong to an individual. Either you should lower the expectations to your little possession or feel belonging to a higher group.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You won\u2019t enjoy or be satisfied with huge expectations. It will always be \u201clater, in the future\u201d with these kinds of expectations. If your lifestyle, your present comfort is not enough for you; you\u2019ll always be dragged from place to place, time to time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For centuries the masters have told that the thing, the aim of life is to be healthy, to be alive, that is the %99 of what you can get from this life. The rest is luxury. However, individuals ask for more and they don\u2019t want to pay for what they asked for. The payment for desire is anxiety, suffering and grinding. Since you\u2019re asking things that are alien to your individual being.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Happiness is a matter of standards. There isn\u2019t a universal standard for happiness. You can only be happy when your expectations are satisfied. Whatever you think that will make you happy, whatever your criteria are, have more parts in your happiness than the external events and possessions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The problem is having standards, criteria and expectations too high or unattainable. Most people have ideal destinations in their heads and these are usually non-existent or not available for them. Because they try to measure their happiness in reference to other people. You can\u2019t live according to other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Stop comparing yourself to others, you\u2019re you for a reason. Your responsibilities should take others into account but if you desire according to others, you\u2019ll never be happy. You can\u2019t be sure of their reasoning nor their outcomes from these desires. You can only satisfy yourself according to your individual standards, as you never know what, why and how the others live through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Furthermore, the desire is not something to be fulfilled, desiring is actually an attempt to continue desiring. Object of desire is always away from you. You don\u2019t want the object; you want the desiring. That\u2019s a vicious circle you see…<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Why don\u2019t you lower your standards, think little things, what you already have? Your attention is always directed to the things behind the horizon, the unknown. It\u2019s up to you to choose the present moment and your all, the reality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Breathing is little, yet it\u2019s vital. Why breathing isn\u2019t enough for you? It\u2019s already in the bag, right? That\u2019s the problem, desiring is asking for more than you require. The conflict arises when you don\u2019t want to pay or suffer for the luxurious things, in other words everything that is more than the vital.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A thief broke into the house of a Zen master only to find there was nothing in it to steal. The master came across him. “You have come a long way to visit me,” he told the burglar, “and you should not return empty handed. Please take my clothes as a gift.” The thief was confused, but he took the clothes and got away. The Master sat naked, watching the moon. “Poor fellow,” he said, ” I wish I could give him this beautiful moon.”<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
We don\u2019t even need clothes to be happy. We may need clothes to find a job, or to do other things. But momentary, instant happiness relies on our expectations and our own specifications of what is going to make us happy. Now is only bound to your expectation from this very moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You will have to enjoy little things if you want to enjoy your life. The desires are always far away and all that you\u2019re left with is the little things. After all, you\u2019re little. You\u2019re just a tiny spec of dust in the cosmos, you can only own little, minor things. If you renounce your claims on these little things, you\u2019ll be forfeiting your only chance of fully enjoying the experience of living. Ego is little, make the most of now with the little things you have.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Overall, little things are the only ones that belong to what you call as \u201cI.\u201d Others, the big ones always have associates trying to get their share. They won\u2019t be really yours. Besides, if you get used to enjoy the little things you\u2019ll be happy forever. The universe is dark but there isn\u2019t enough darkness to snuff out the light of an individual candle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And don\u2019t forget, happiness is never decreased by being shared, instead it increases when shared. It\u2019s not about possession, rather giving away. Giving away the high standards, great expectations that will never belong to \u201cyou.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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